Category: Adult Reactive Attachment Disorder
+SOME NUTS AND BOLTS OF ART THERAPY TRAINING
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Wednesday, May 4, 2016. My art therapy training sessions with a “service provider” I will call Abby here in Fargo are going refreshingly well! Many aspects of the practice are coming up for us to describe through a very natural process of art production and discussion.
It is fascinating to be working with a very healthy woman! At the same time she is experiencing the process of creating images, many important aspects of “being a therapist” are appearing in her images.
I wanted to mention two linked and intertwined aspects of “being a therapist” (“being a healer”) that showed up in Abby’s art work today – 1) transference and countertransference, and 2) “the healer” archetypes.
Patterns and dynamics of therapy processes are about communication. When limited only to verbalization processes the details of the nuances in the processes are much harder to track than they are through art work expressions. Importantly, all aspects of the transference process work best for a HEALED healer. Art processes enable these patterns to become very clear and nearly tangible in image work.
For an art therapist countertransference will appear through doing one’s own artwork outside of sessions while focus is on session work, on the client and on the internal experience of the therapist. This is an “evoking-evocative” process which allows “awakenings” within the therapist that will in-form the therapy work.
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In a healed healer those images can be trusted to be “echoes” of the processes a client is moving through. They can clarify for the therapist deeper levels of meaning, connections and movement of the work going on in sessions.
Art therapy, when done near its peak maximum potential, is a kind of poetry (poesis). This is a highly constructive and re-creational way of being in the world. Every second in a session matters. Every part of the session is a “telling” part of the image and speaks of the poetry of the work. All words and related non-spoken exchange signals are also part of the wholeness of the image being expressed in an ongoing manner. Every part is valued – and is OF value.
Transference (client to therapist) is an expected aspect of a therapy relationship. Countertransference (therapist to client) also needs to be welcomed, appreciated, valued – AND understood. These processes MUST be operating on the conscious level for the therapist, and art image making is a powerful way to bring this consciousness into focus.
Because art therapy (done correctly) is a superb medium of communication exchanges it WILL expose to light all that can be known of what is happening in therapy processes. Not all at once, of course! No therapy works that way. The art work is a specific record of the details of such a process along with whatever words are recorded in the poetic process of interacting verbally with the images.
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Probably up to and into the 1980s the term “wounded healer” was still accepted in reference to people who suffered in their own lives but could use all of their experiences of suffering and healing processes to help others heal.
At about the middle of that decade a shift began to appear which demonstrated that being wounded as a healer was no longer enough — or acceptable.
As time moves forward in the evolution of the maturation process of the human race we will eventually reach a point where civilization no longer will tolerate anywhere on the planet what so harms people today (and all life here on earth).
I anticipate this to be a many centuries-long process, but we ARE moving in this direction.
A part of this process is a paradigm shift reflected in the healed healer archetype. We are ALL now able to work toward healing our own wounds COMPLETELY. It is now the obligation, the moral and ethical responsibility of those working in any arena of “being a healer” to accelerate their own healing as they ALWAYS remain as consciously aware as they possibly can where their wounds still exist.
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My own pathway through these processes led me to step away from any role connected to “being a healer” because I now understand too much about what the kind of horrific trauma of abuse and neglect did to harm me.
I have NO problem at all with being in the educator role for healers who have healed themselves such as Abby has done. She will no doubt keep continual track of the state of her own health for the rest of her life to keep herself healthy.
Because I believe in God I believe it has been His Will in motion that has caused my and Abby’s paths to connect at this time.
The techniques and “theory” I am sharing through the art making and training process will inform Abby’s life and work in any way she chooses to use them. Meanwhile I am freed from ANY worry that I am teaching someone who I would not see as healed-enough to call herself “a healer.”
I KNOW that Abby will only do good for other people. I KNOW she will never harm anyone. She is too healthy and whole to do so.
Such a delight!
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society.”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+ANXIETY
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Tuesday, May 3, 2016.
Anxiety
anxiety comes creeping
black shadow like ink
over snow
or it comes like a blast
shocking
everything in its way
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maybe it wouldn’t matter
if I were a bird or a squirrel
or a frog
all such a creature is built to do
is react
moment to moment
as if there is
no tomorrow
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but I do notice
I notice in one instant I am
no longer feeling OK
as I was an instant ago
no warning
no notice
nothing I can determine in
this current life of mine
that brought this ink upon me
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and nothing I can think or
do
makes it go away
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disturbed
a pair of wild geese
on high alert
honking
fly away together
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they feel what they feel
they deeply know to get away
there are no questions
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only I ask
why?
— Anonymous
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society.”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+TWO SCALES IN COMBO ABSOLUTELY NEEDED! ADULT ATTACHMENT and ACEs
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Monday, May 2, 2016. This is an excellent beginning read on a topic that is extremely important to me:
Infant-parent attachment: Definition, types, antecedents, measurement and outcome
By Diane Benoit, MD FRCPC – FULL TEXT free
Paediatrics and Child Health. 2004 Oct; 9(8): 541–545.
PMCID: PMC2724160
Abstract
“Attachment theory is one of the most popular and empirically grounded theories relating to parenting. The purpose of the present article is to review some pertinent aspects of attachment theory and findings from attachment research. Attachment is one specific aspect of the relationship between a child and a parent with its purpose being to make a child safe, secure and protected. Attachment is distinguished from other aspects of parenting, such as disciplining, entertaining and teaching. Common misconceptions about what attachment is and what it is not are discussed. The distinction between attachment and bonding is provided. The recognized method to assess infant-parent attachment, the Strange Situation procedure, is described. In addition, a description is provided for the four major types of infant-parent attachment, ie, secure, insecure-avoidant, insecure-resistant and insecure-disorganized. The antecedents and consequences of each of the four types of infant-parent attachment are discussed. A special emphasis is placed on the description of disorganized attachment because of its association with significant emotional and behavioural problems, and poor social and emotional outcomes in high-risk groups and in the majority of children who have disorganized attachment with their primary caregiver. Practical applications of attachment theory and research are presented.”
Keywords: Attachment, Attachment relationships, Infant-parent attachment
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A quick scan through the list of references at the end of this important article will show you a very simplified yet fairly clear idea of where my biases stem from. It is very common among researchers and practionners of all sorts to leave out any mention or consideration of what you WILL see among those references – Disorganized-Disoriented Insecure Attachment.
Is this the worst, most hurtful of the insecure attachments? No. But except for the use of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) there is, to my knowledge, only one more inconsistently referred to and problematic type sometimes referred to as “Cannot Classify.”
All of these “lower” insecure attachment categories involve Disorganized-Disoriented patterns which are created around early abuse and neglect in infancy that forces a developing nervous system/brain to form dissociation within it.
An ACEs measurement in no possible way identifies ANY early attachment problems which, when they exist, have created a PRIOR condition long before any other ACE-related problem could come into play. We ALL have to understand that early attachment FIRST forms the nervous system-brain, immune system, stress response system, etc. that is the BODY of the person whose processes DO experience a person’s life.
There is nothing I see in ACEs measurement that would let us know who is living from birth in an insecure attachment (0 through age 3) built body and who is not because at LEAST their mother-infant attachment was “good enough” birth to age ONE!
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See also: The Adult Attachment Interview (AAI): Mary Main in a Strange Situation
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Does current ACEs “mania” further antagonize our cultural split between “body” and “brain” — as if such is possible? As I see it, if the formative processes of early attachment relationships are not considered in our ACEs thinking we might as well pretend that we have no body at all! Take a look at this very short video!!
Dr. Daniel Siegel Defines Mind
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I am increasingly concerned that not only does the ACE Questionnaire not have the ability to identify the MOST damaging aspects of troubled early life, but the risk of eliminating the most important sources of these problems cannot be identified, either. That source is specifically the insecure attachment patterns built into MOTHERS who are likely to pass those patterns to her offspring.
In any case, I believe ACE findings will not have true power to inform if the most important section of time within which human critical development occurs (conception to age 4) cannot be targeted for assessment. At the very least it must be made clear that this missing information greatly reduces the usefulness of ACEs.
Ignoring what we cannot easily measure or SEE (including in our memory) is going to continue to leave us in the dark.
(Also see comments to my last post — +IS THERE ROOM FOR AN ACEs DEBATE? (Long post) – April 29, 2016 – for some highlights of my thinking on this matter.)
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I have been searching around online to see what exists for an adult attachment scale. So far I have settled on this article for the most helpful information about what’s available:
A Reliability Generalization Meta-Analysis of SelfReport Measures of Adult Attachment
By James M. Grahama, Marta S. Unterschutea
Department of Psychology, Western Washington University
Published online: 25 Jun 2014 — Journal of Personality Assessment
This article was downloaded by: [Northwestern University] On: 04 July 2014, At: 08:26 Publisher: Routledge Informa Ltd Registered in England and Wales Registered Number: 1072954 Registered office: Mortimer House, 37-41 Mortimer Street, London W1T 3JH, UK
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It appears that this might be the most valid and reliable adult attachment measurement tool available:
The article at this link gives the questions on the scale as they went through revisions from a 36- to a 12- question scale.
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As my daughter prepares to consider her doctoral dissertation topic I am naturally presenting to her my concerns about the failure of the ACE process to identify the so-important elements of early attachment as they ALONE can determine much of the well-being of a person’s life without EVER considering the other difficulties that are considered with ACEs.
I believe an important step that needs to happen before ACEs information can be made maximally useful is some research using at minimum a qualified adult attachment scale in combination with the ACEs questionnaire. My daughter has the ability to figure out such a plan and to implement it should she do this NOW or sometime after her doctoral work is completed.
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Part of what also concerns me is that “attachment” seems to be very loosely translated to being “social support.” (When it comes to today’s world and what is happening to “attachment,” take a look at what these search terms will produce: social media may serve attachment functions because)
Infants and very young children are most definitely NOT looking for or reliant upon “social support” unless we are willing to make such an absurd mis-connection between the two! I would also not consider mate relationships parental relationships at any point on the age spectrum as being “social support,” either. They are attachment relationships, as are many true friendships and relationships with family members of all ages.
When it comes to this issue, or to the concerns I have about how ludicrous it seems to me to think the ACEs “movement” can account for those so-critical stages of early attachment growth and development by IGNORING them – I think our society is quite simply OFF ITS ROCKER!
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Note: It probably remains true that the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) is the ONLY accurate assessment tool. It is impossible to use this as a general public instrument. It was designed ONLY for research purposes. There are ways, probably impractical, through which some combination of research using an adult attachment tool in combination with the ACE questionnaire could be “run through” a research filter accomplished by those trained and credentialed in administration and assessment of the AAI.
Given enough motivation, and enough money, SOMEONE could come up with a combination that would be able to test the validity of an adult attachment-ACEs interaction. The AAI would have to be the way to do this at some point in an excellent research pipeline.
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While assessing adult attachment is not a direct indicator of earliest attachment there is no doubt a strong correlation, and this connection cannot be ignored.
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society.”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+SOMETIMES THERE IS NO SIMPLE. ARE THERE LINKS BETWEEN EXPERIENCING TRAUMA ALTERED DEVELOPMENT AND EXPERIENCING AUTISM?
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Wednesday, April 27, 2016. I can look back and remember the YEARS when a thought would come to me for a post and then I simply sat down and wrote that post out without effort. I hope that process returns to me once my move this fall is complete and I am home again at last.
In my life right now thoughts tumble, stumble, swarm and bifurcate into tangential ideas that seemingly have no end. I see in my mind the image of a great old tree complete with probably millions of twigs reaching out in new growth every year. How to pick out important twigs? How to separate them exactly from the branches they are growing from?
Part of my writing problems stems from the fact that I have written so many posts over the years that I KNOW contain information connected to any thought I might have for a post today. Here are a few past posts (links at the bottom of this post ) that fit this bill right now as connected to something I discovered today – which I connect to body-brain developmental changes caused by early severe neglect and abuse trauma –
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A friend sent me a link to this video today – ASTOUNDING!
Autistic Girl Expresses Unimaginable Intelligence
This incredible child’s name is Carly – and here is her blog:
And here’s the site for her book:
Carly’s Voice: Breaking Through Autism
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The video is, I believe, a MUST WATCH for anyone who has experienced severe early trauma who has come to understand that there is much in their trauma-altered experience of living that is connected to a Reactive Attachment Disorder pattern of insecure attachment.
What is the ability to communicate? What is Carly finally able to say about the truth of HER experience on the autism spectrum? What can we SAY about the truth of what happened to us?
I pause here to include links to posts on this blog related, also, to Disorganized-Disoriented Insecure Attachment – all connected to the great branches of what happened to so many of us:
+A COLLECTION OF THIS BLOG’S LINKS ON DISSOCIATION AND DISORGANIZED-DISORIENTED INSECURE ATTACHMENT
+DISORGANIZED-DISORIENTED INSECURE ATTACHMENT – 2 ARTICLE LINKS
*Attachment Simplified – Disorganized Insecure Attachment – Disorganized-Disoriented
+INFANT-CHILD ABUSE AND FRANTIC PANIC (dissociation, disorganized-disoriented insecure attachment)
+DISOGANIZED-DISORIENTED INSECURE ATTACHMENT – AT THE CORE OF ‘BORDERLINE’
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Also:
+ADULT REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER: LIVING WITH IT
+WHAT EARLY ABUSE/NEGLECT SURVIVORS MOST NEED TO KNOW (AND ARE LEAST LIKELY TO BE TOLD)
+CLEAR ARTICLE ON LIFELONG INFANT-CHILD TRAUMA CONSEQUENCES
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When it comes to thinking about the spectrum that exists between people who are super sensitive on one end and those who are far less sensitive on the other – true also for autism — here are some posts talking about this continuum in connection to Trauma Altered development:
*Allostasis and Allostatic Load — April 12, 2009 This page contains my own working notes written while studying the research of the authors noted below. Please go to my sectionhttps://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/references/ to locate the citation for their work. Be patient, the reference page is a bit slow to load because it contains about 200 text pages of reference material.
+ARE YOU A ‘SENSITIVE?’
+FASCINATING NOTES ON LIVING WITH TRAUMA
+TRAUMA SURVIVORS: OUR TENSILE STRENGTH
*OVERWHELMING TRAUMA CHANGES
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I guess I believe that it is often the task of a writer to “think for” our readers. The more there is to know about how the toxic stress caused by early infant and child trauma alters physiological development and causes problems for a lifetime, the more complex the array of combinations of relevant information becomes. I really cannot think of any simple way to explain today how I know there are undoubtedly powerful connections between the experience of being on the autism spectrum and being “on the trauma altered development spectrum.”
So all I can manage to do right now is to encourage a watching of the video I mention above and a scan through one or more of the earlier posts on this blog whose I include here today.
I don’t believe there is anyone out there who will tell us the information we most need to know as trauma altered people. This is true because they really CAN’T tell us. Nobody can process this information for us, really. We have to search for the truths to our own experience for ourselves.
These following blog posts represent only a small few of the many on this topic to be discovered on this blog.
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+SAFE? UNSAFE? HOW DO OUR STATES OF BEING RELATE TO ANCIENT JAWLESS FISH?
+PORGES’ IMPORTANT NEW BOOK TO HELP INFANT-CHILD ABUSE SURVIVORS
+MOVIE – TEMPLE GRANDIN: RELATES TO SOCIAL-EMOTIONAL BRAIN CHANGES FROM INFANT ABUSE
+JUST AGAIN RECOMMENDING THE MOVIE, ‘TEMPLE GRANDIN’
+THINKING ABOUT THINKING (PART FOUR): SEVERE INFANT ABUSE SURVIVORS’ UNIQUE WORLDVIEW
+WORDS DO NOT MEAN SOCIAL CONNECTION TO ME – THEY ARE OBJECT-TOOLS-WEAPONS
+THINKING ABOUT ANIMALS, PEOPLE, COMPASSION
+SOME MORE INFO ON MUSIC, VOICE AND THE BRAIN
+POWER OF SOUND FOR HEALING OUR NERVOUS SYSTEM-BRAIN
+A LONG, THOUGHTFUL LOOK AT VERBAL ABUSE AS MALIGNANT TEASING
+LEARNING STYLES AND LONELINESS
+GENDER AND THE BRAIN — DIFFERENCES AND EARLY TRAUMA
**Buck on Symbolic Communication and Emotions
++LIMBIC SYSTEM
+IS MENTAL ILLNESS THE COST OF OUR SPECIES’ GREATEST GIFTS?
**Dr. Allan Schore on Emotional Regulation – Notes
*Notes on emotion and meaning
++HIPPOCAMPUS
*Notes on Hippocampus
++AMYGDALA
++ DR. SCHORE ON SHAME
++User’s Guide – notes on Ratey’s writings
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society.”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+GRAY DAY POSSIBILITIES
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Tuesday, April 26, 2016. Here it is yet another heavily overcast gray day in Fargo, ND – again. Forty two degrees. Yes, the air is CLEAN! I told myself before I left my high desert Arizona home nearly three years ago to be sure to pay attention to HOW CLEAN THE AIR IS here! Yep!
I am listening to my cloudy very damp day restoration sound track on YouTube – 3 Hours of Nightingale Singing! It is helping me to be surrounded by songs of a bird I will probably never see in person!
A friend of mine also (re)posted something today I thought maybe readers here might like to know about –
How to Release the Stress stored in our Bodies by Jacob Devaney
It includes
“The best doctor is already within you. There is no replacement for cultivating a practice that heals, replenishes, and relaxes you from the in-side, out. There are numerous yoga poses that can help you on your journey of releasing this stress, anxiety, and fear stored within your psoas. Yoga calls this “the muscle of the soul” so any focus here is sure to give great results to your overall well-being. Yoga International seems to have a comprehensive list of photos and descriptions of poses that can start you on your journey.”
I admit that I have never practiced yoga. Will I begin today? Not sure. But reading this article helps me understand I DO have some untried options to help me I do not quite know why even ATTEMPTING yoga feels so intimidating to me?
Probably because it’s an unknown. It’s something I would rather begin in the company of other people – very SAFE and super friendly and encouraging other people!
Maybe if I had a printer and could print the yoga instructions so I had them next to me way down there on the FLOOR (of all places) I would at least TRY this pose for the betterment of my Psoas muscle. Meanwhile – what I really want to do is listen to nightingales singing while I take a very cool and cloudy day nap!
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If you haven’t seem this – take a browse! This is MY style of “working out” and I SO MISS THIS!”
LINDA’S ADOBE PEACE GARDEN
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society.”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders, borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse, depression, derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder, dissociation, dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+MISSING: ART THERAPY AND A NEEDED CONVERSATION
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Monday, April 18, 2016. How strange, yet I guess I am not surprised. Thoughts and feelings about my “art therapist self-hood” are reawakened by having heard yesterday from the “play therapist” contacting me for some training I offered to share with her (as I mentioned in my previous post).
There could not have been a profession I could have chosen and worked for my master’s degree in that could possibly have been any closer to my heart-of-hearts, to who I am in my essence. In fact, it is even the one my grandmother – a career psychologist specializing in helping people choose their correct careers (my mother’s mother) – gave me the Strong-Campbell Interest Inventory text when I was 11 or 12 and from those results predicted that I would be most successful and happiest as – an art therapist!!
The career field did not exist when Grandmother gave me that test with her recommendations. I had not read that report for over 20 years until I found it again while I was IN my art therapy graduate program (University of New Mexico, Albuquerque, 1989-1991). Yes, this was more than a little eerie of a discovery to me at that time!
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So, what really happens to us over the loss of something like this that means so much to us? My hopes did not really work out over the long haul for myself with art therapy as a profession – for many, many reasons, none of which I could really control. (The Serenity Prayer comes to mind here.)
At this moment I am greatly wishing I had someone in my life to have an actual conversation with about these matters. But I don’t. So I am writing here….
Although I have retained my national Art Therapist registration, which is a credential that can only be obtained by pursuing such a master’s degree along with meeting all the supervision requirements, this certification is for the most part truly “useless” and “worthless” in American society today. VERY few states have gone through a process to get approval for licensure specifically for art therapists, so ANYONE, literally, can claim to “do art therapy” or to “be an art therapist.”
There is NO protection for the profession.
To me this is no different from a situation where someone who has a pair of pliers handy can claim to be a dentist.
Is this a dangerous situation for the public? I would say yes – with a but….
I am SO good at what I do I completely understand and accept the responsibility that goes along with the incredible POWER that art therapy, accomplished by a trained, skilled and gifted Art Therapist can have.
BUT! Given that so few people actually HAVE these qualifications, I would say that the danger to the public is greatly lessened simply because without the qualifications the power is all but gone. I am not sure there is any more risk than there would be with a teacher “doing art work” with kindergartners.
Sad to me, really, in so many, many ways. No wonder this feels like a longing has been tapped, touched, reawakened!
BUT! This is reality. Just as my grandmother was decades ahead of her time even in her recognition of my aptitude for such a profession, and in her actually NAMING a profession that did not yet exist (and so barely even does now over 50 years later), the entire field of art therapy is so far ahead of the curve it is well over an invisible horizon and may not actually appear until hundreds of years from now.
I have known for many years that given the chance to do four “evaluative” art therapy sessions would provide such depth, breadth and truth of a client’s life that a regular therapist could spend a year working through the information I could provide them about their client.
I would NEVER have the patience to do the “working through” with a client that ongoing therapy actually requires, although I know there are some art therapists who CAN do that.
That’s not my niche. Oh well……… Off I would go in that “missing conversation with nobody out there” that I am longing to have right now about these things!
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So why would I agree to “train” someone in any aspect of art therapy? How do I do so fairly given these reservations that I obviously so strongly hold in my mind and heart?
Good question!
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I believe in spiritual guidance and I strongly suspect that there is nothing accidental in what is going to happen soon with this “play therapist” as we talk and work together. I am completely aware that the Creator I am completely comfortable with calling God has plans in this world that I do not – and probably cannot possibly – understand.
It is not my place to question these kinds of situations when they show up. It is my place to listen to my own heart and to act according to its guidance.
Of course I was quite sure that’s what I was doing 1989-1991 when I got this degree in the first place. As I look back into my life as a child, to MY LIFE, my OWN (yes, completely-hidden-from-my-abusive-mother) life I see art therapy me all the way back to when I was two years old. My training was for my soul. Nobody can ever take that away from me.
Yet I do struggle not to take this part of who I am away from myself! This is me! All these abilities along with everything that honed them, belongs to me! To do with as I choose.
No, I cannot make ART matter in this so-sick and getting sicker materialistic, nonorganic culture I live within. I cannot change that drugging hurting people is so much more of a popular solution that actually helping them to heal is. I can’t change these things.
But when I encounter a “play therapist” whose path has crossed my own, who expresses interest and desire to add “art therapy” skills into her bag of tricks….
I am not going to say no. And, just possibly, some of this woman’s clients may benefit in very special ways from this woman’s administrations of healing as they will carry some part of what I can so capably teach her.
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Do all the words I just wrote take away or diminish this very special ache in my art therapist heart?
Nope.
Oh well. Life goes on. I do what I have always done. My part. In the best way that I can manage to do it.
I expect that there will be some joy for me in this teaching opportunity. I LOVE this work! “Play therapist” lady will get a mega dose of training if she is sincerely up for it. I am hoping we will be able to record the audio of our sessions, or classes, or whatever these will be.
For my part, there is an art therapist part of me that lies dormant – quietly – not asserting anything about what cannot be changed. I don’t know how I used to think about the process of “letting go” but I am very clear what image (ah, images, the life of life) I have now when such times come to me.
My hand held nearly open, palm upward, with a flower bud in the center. I slowly and without any stress in my fingers spread my fingertips apart as I imagine this flower bud slowly opening to the fullness of its beauty.
Often the image of the flower is of a lotus blossom, but sometimes it is of a waterlily. Whatever gorgeous flower is there upon my palm, I do not crush it. I let it open to its own life, as I try yet again to set whatever troubles me — free.
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society….”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+A ROUGH SCATTERING OF NOTES (ACEs related info)
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Monday, April 18, 2016. A “play therapist” I came into contact with over two years ago when I first arrived in Fargo has circled back around again with her new request that I work with her in some way around some basics of art therapy that she can use in her private practice. (I am a nationally registered art therapist.)
She very briefly described her clientele in an email yesterday along with what she is aiming for –
“I was thinking about doing more art therapy with my clients, teens and parents. Possibly start a group. I have divorced parents not able to co parent, teens getting into lots of trouble, depressed/anxious teens, and a severe eating disorder.
I like to be a “guinea pig” and understand the process from the client perspecitve as well. So maybe that can be an option?”
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Now, in this healing-paradigm-shifting world, this is the gist of what I sent back to her this morning. I see absolutely NO WAY that any reputable therapist cannot be informed about ACEs in today’s world!
(I just received her response to my email – this savvy therapist is already familiar with ACEs info but will check further through this info I am asking her to look at prior to Wednesday morning when we will meet.) –
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Good morning!
Let’s aim for Wed. morning. We can go up to Red Raven Espresso Parlor (are you familiar with this place up on Main?) – That’s an excellent spot for ‘conversations’ that matter!!! there is a side community room here where we can work/learn (and if you believe in prayer, please add some for your and my efforts together)
It takes AT LEAST a specialized masters in art therapy to even begin to ‘do this’ correctly – but we do not live in an ideal world and I am very willing to trust you as a healer that you are asking for this sincerely – and with the best intent!I would absolutely start by introducing you to a process – for your own self – I will bring along some basic supplies.
I DO really want you to do some ‘homework’ before we meet – this info is ESSENTIAL to your practice – if you have not encountered this yet – NOW IS THE ABSOLUTE TIME TO DO SO!!
More than ANY ‘technique’ you might use — THIS info is the healing power behind ANY hope of helping others that is needed in ‘this day and time’ – this is where the paradigm shift is happening
google search “cdc ace study” —
that’s the basic stuff – I wish you to have at least scanned this before we meet!
also check this site
ACEsConnection: Home
www.acesconnection.com/
As a long time teacher activist, “owner” of my own ACEs collection, and passionate believer in grass roots activism, I want our voices actively engaged within this …
AND
watch one or both of these videos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laura Porter – YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHH37ia6Wc8
Oct 9, 2014 – Uploaded by Northwest Venture Philanthropy
At an April 9 workshop at McKenna Events Center in New Braunfels, Texas, Laura Porter, co-founder of ACE …
Laura Porter Keynote: NEAR Science & New WA … – YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jr-w_uBCbYY
Nov 17, 2014 – Uploaded by Foundation for Healthy Generations (Healthy Gen)
Laura Porter, Senior Director of the Learning Institute at Foundation for Healthy Generations explores .
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I HIGHLY suggest you order this book ASAP
and this one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Functional Family Workbook: 206 Things You Can Do To Raise Happy and Confident Children!
There is an increasing amount of info on this – but watch the very short trailer -OK – now THIS – and it’s quick and painless!!
http://kpjrfilms.co/paper-tigers/
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Meanwhile, Oh HOW I WISH I could sing like THIS!
Up to the mountain
Patty Griffin sings a mind blowing rendition of this amazing song that she wrote in honor of Martin Luther King. The words can be found here: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/pattygriffin/uptothemountainmlksong.html
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Another email was also sent recommending article by Dr. Martin Teicher, attachment book by Dr. Daniel Siegel, and anything online – there are many articles on attachment and right brain development – by Dr. Allan N. Schore.
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge.
“Story Without Words is a forensic biography/autobiography in which the author, Linda Danielson, explores three generations of her family history to help understand the horrific abuse she was subjected to from birth at her mother’s hands. Her mother Mildred had a psychotic break while delivering Linda, her second of six children and the only one of whom she targeted directly for abuse. The delivery culminated in Mildred being convinced that Linda had been sent by the devil to kill her, and until Linda left home at age 18 for boot camp, she was subjected to unrelenting abuse.
“Story Without Words is a creative and compassionate exploration of early factors that may have contributed to Mildred’s abusive trajectory. The author seeks to give words to her experiences as a child abuse survivor; Story Without Words is unique in providing the words of the abuser and the abused in one volume. The author seeks to provide insight for others who were themselves abused, professionals who wish to learn more about the inner world of survivors, and concerned individuals who wish to help stop the storm of child abuse in our society….”
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+INFO IN COMBO (Can you imagine living a good life for 110 years?)
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Sunday, April 17, 2016. Things that I wanted to mention in a blog post are piling up, and I am afraid if I don’t take a few moments to note some of them here this evening I will lose some information that is important to me as this time of my life is a’passing by with me in it.
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AUTISM
Along with April being Child Abuse Prevention month it is also Autism Awareness and Acceptance Month. I want to mention an excellent blog with information about children “on the ASD spectrum” (Austism Spectrum Disorder).
I am mentioning here in this post for the first time the incredible journey it has been since my arrival in Fargo October 12, 2013 to help my daughter with her family. It was quite an ordeal of a struggle to finally get the accurate ASD diagnosis for the older of my two grandsons when he was four. He is finishing his first year in kindergarten now and with all the love, care and services he has and is receiving he is making incredible progress.
There has to be a very steep learning curve regarding ASD awareness for everyone involved in the care of very young children. The younger they are when they receive their accurate diagnosis the sooner they receive services specific to their own “version” of growth, development and existence.
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LEAVING
It was extremely important – no, it was VITAL – that I move up here to Fargo because of the needs of my little grandsons – but I have to leave here before next winter arrives (probably moving in September). Leaving my grandsons will be excruciatingly difficult but I CANNOT remain here. I am, quite literally it seems, completely allergic to the “excessive hardships” of this location. (I have SO “been there done that” over the course of my childhood and adult life!)
I need the sunshine and warmth (Fargo has MAYBE had 15 sunny days in nearly 8 months), color of blue skies, red rock mountain views, rural living, small towns, laid back people, some privacy, flowers, nature, QUIET and peace – I need to return to the Arizona-Mexico high desert borderland if AT ALL POSSIBLE!
(I did at least get to now plant something in my 9 white 5-gallon plastic buckets set on the little cement slab outside my door this week with Romaine lettuce, Swiss Chard, snapdragons, pansies and poppies.)
Which leads me to my next batch of thoughts – about —
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PRAYER
About a month ago a picture of a whale breaking water appeared in my facebook news feed along with a note that fascinated me. I went back to find it and could not. I even posted a request to find the person who posted this everywhere I could think of to no avail. Oh well!
What I remember of those words was a description of how animals speak a language – the 1st language; humans speak in the language of our words – the 2nd language; and then, this person mentioned – there is yet another 3rd language – the language of PRAYER!
I rely exclusively on the prayers HERE because I believe with many others that they are divinely inspired. Yet I know among all the followers of all the world’s faiths there are inspired prayers from the heart that are also powerful!
If nothing else, the difficulties of my length of stay here at this point in my life have lead me to rely on prayer like never before – and this is a very good thing! I pray a lot of the whole human race. There is a LOT of suffering going on – and while I can try to do my own small part to be of service to humanity – I do believe that prayer is more important than anything else I can come up with to do.
We are in so many ways “an endangered species” – with a Creator Who loves us more than we can ever begin to imagine. But we do insist, it seems to me, on being willfully disobedient kidz – and I do wonder how much longer we will be allowed to continue down our so hurtful and destructive path! We CAN – and I believe NEED TO – ask for HELP so that it can be provided to us.
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BOOKS
I want to mention a book I just finished reading. It is one my daughter (mother of my grandsons) is using as a required reading in the college course she is teaching right now (required as a component of her doctorate program).
I cannot emphasize enough how important a read I think this book is for many, many reasons!! Once I resettle myself again this fall I am hoping to organize an informal book club reading and study of this profoundly important tale of two INCREDIBLE (centurion) women!
Having Our Say: The Delany Sisters’ First 100 Years
by Sarah L. Delany and A. Elizabeth Delany with Amy Hill Hearth (1993)
Sarah Louise “Sadie” Delany was an African-American educator and civil rights pioneer — Born: September 19, 1889, Campbell County, Virginia –Died: January 25, 1999, Mount Vernon, NY – lived 110 years!
Annie Elizabeth “Bessie” Delany was an African-American dentist and civil rights pioneer – Born: September 3, 1891, Raleigh, North Carolina – Died: September 25, 1995, Mt. Vernon, NY — lived 104 years!
“Warm, feisty, and intelligent, the Delany sisters speak their mind in a book that is at once a vital historical record and a moving portrait of two remarkable women who continued to love, laugh, and embrace life after over a hundred years of living side by side.
“Their sharp memories show us the post-Reconstruction South and Booker T. Washington; Harlem’s Golden Age and Langston Hughes, W.E.B. Du Bois, and Paul Robeson. Bessie breaks barriers to become a dentist; Sadie quietly integrates the New York City system as a high school teacher. Their extraordinary story makes an important contribution to our nation’s heritage—and an indelible impression on our lives.”
There are two more titles I want to order and read – I just haven’t gotten that far yet!!
On My Own at 107: Reflections on Life Without Bessie by Sarah Louise Delany and Amy Hill Hearth (Feb 1997)
The Delany Sisters’ Book of Everyday Wisdom Hardcover
by Sarah Louise Delany, Annie Elizabeth Delany with Amy Hill Hearth (Nov 1994)
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There are two more important books on order I am excited to read – written by A MAN WITH ZEZRO ACES!! WOW – I cannot imagine! He has important things to say about (I added this book’s info as a postscript to my last post) —
The ACEs Revolution!: The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences
by John Richard Trayser (Jan 25, 2016)
“John’s book does a superb job of giving hope on how to prevent ACEs and has remarkable results for EVERY FAMILY THAT READS THE SECOND PART OF THE BOOK OUT LOUD TOGETHER! Conversations will begin that are essential to heartfelt communication. The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study details the significant impact of childhood trauma on the emotional and physical well being for the remainder of your life. John’s book does a great job of showing the IMPACT of ACEs in all phases of our lives…and WE ARE ALL IMPACTED…even if you have zero ACEs yourself. This book gives hope to those who have lived in the shadows of pain and vulnerability from trauma in their childhood. His adopted grand daughter was a 7 ACE score…and after 9 years of love from the family…feels like a ZERO! You can change your stars with LOVE.”
Trayser is boldly advocating NO MORE ACES – and this 2nd book of his is about healing the families all children are born into –
Functional Family Workbook: 206 Things You Can Do To Raise Happy and Confident Children!
by John Richard Trayser (Jan 25, 2010)
“The Functional Family Workbook lists 206 ideas and activities that will let your children KNOW THAT YOU CARE! That is the most important part of raising children. They don’t need perfection, or lots of money and things…they are hungry to KNOW that you care. If truly USED with the children…discussions will begin that will cement that notion. Children don’t care WHAT you know…UNTIL they know how much you care!”
Trayser also has a third book that I am not ordering at this time:
by John Richard Trayser (Jan 25, 2016)
“A Greatful Dad challenges parents who were not connected emotionally with their parents. There are ways to heal the family and they usually center around communication. More caring and love provide the path to the hearts of our children. This book provides real life tools that can establish a connection that makes all parties involved happier and more confident in their lives. A life with no regrets at the end is to be cherished. Without joy, purpose and caring…life can be lonely and painful. Their is HOPE in these pages!”
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NOW!
Although I understand why the term “dysfunctional” is still being used to describe human interactions, I will personally NEVER use it! As one of my art therapy graduate school professors so often insisted, “HUMANS ARE NOT PENCIL SHARPENERS!”
Nope. We are not machines. We are not mechanized. We might not LIKE certain things about human patterns, but we are organic, living beings each living our lives given “what we know to be true.”
People are all ignorant of something! Many are also very immature and many are sick. Teach people! Help them to grow up! Help heal people!
All the books I listed above are about these processes. I hope to eventually hold book studies with all of these books in combination because as the Delany sisters describe their lives – they HAD the kind of family life of love and health that Trayser is no doubt describing.
I DID MOST CERTAINLY NOT grow up in a healthy loving family!!! Nope!! I suspect that most readers of this blog did not, either. We can acquire a lot of great things to think about by reading books such as the ones listed here.
And, of course, the American history the Delany sisters lived through and talk about in their book is also a MUST READ – for ALL Americans! Our society is BECOMING healthier but we still have a long way to go. The more information we can add to our considerations and actions toward healing – the better!
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
+LINK TO SHORT “PRIMER ON ACEs”
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Tuesday, April 12, 2016. I received an email today from the Paper Tigers movie information people that included a link to a “primer” short video that very succinctly explains what the Centers for Disease Control’s Adverse Childhood Study and its findings mean. This is a good link to send to someone you might know – who NEEDS to know about this vital information.
Below the video link is the information about it that was included in the email. Also please note that there are a few more short videos following this primer. Unfortunately the free screening of the ACEs resiliency film mentioned in these video clips for those subscribed to http://www.acesconnection.com/ is not helpful – the notification of this screening appearing in the emails sent out today were too late for the April 10th screening. It sounds like there will be more free online screenings coming up – I hope I receive an email next time – on time!!
“Masterfully crafted by editor Jen Bradwell for the PAPER TIGERS and RESILIENCE producers Jamie Redford and Karen Pritzker, the “ACEs Primer” is their gift to the community currently combatting the health risks Toxic Stress and Adverse Childhood Experience. “It’s an easily digestible ACEs educational tool,” says Jen Bradwell, “which quickly and clearly explains what can be done about a stark, science-based reality: children raised in chronically stressful homes are prone to physical and mental health problems later in life.”
““If not communicated correctly,” says Jamie Redford, “this mind-body connection is at risk of being dismissed as too “Hippie-Dippie. But when the story is embedded in the solid science behind it, the message can have hugely positive implications for how we approach treating and preventing everything from heart disease to alcoholism to depression and more.”
“Says Producer Karen Pritzker, “We wanted to answer the common questions that people have: What are ACEs? What’s an ACE score? What does my ACE score mean? What does it NOT mean? What do I do with this information now? How can this be used as a tool to improve the wellbeing of individuals and communities?“
“We sincerely hope it will be a helpful tool to raise awareness and start valuable conversations. The “ACEs Primer” is available on the KPJR website at http://www.papertigersmovie.com and http://www.resiliencemovie.com as well as on the PAPER TIGERS Educational DVD that is currently available for purchase through TUGG at: http://licenses.tugg.com/products/paper-tigers “
The educational version of Paper Tigers is on sale for 25% off through the month of April, which is Child Abuse Prevention Month.
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I am thinking about buying this book
The ACEs Revolution!: The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences– January 25, 2016 – by John Richard Trayser
Book blurb on Amazon.com:
“John’s book does a superb job of giving hope on how to prevent ACEs and has remarkable results for EVERY FAMILY THAT READS THE SECOND PART OF THE BOOK OUT LOUD TOGETHER! Conversations will begin that are essential to heartfelt communication. The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study details the significant impact of childhood trauma on the emotional and physical well being for the remainder of your life. John’s book does a great job of showing the IMPACT of ACEs in all phases of our lives…and WE ARE ALL IMPACTED…even if you have zero ACEs yourself. This book gives hope to those who have lived in the shadows of pain and vulnerability from trauma in their childhood. His adopted grand daughter was a 7 ACE score…and after 9 years of love from the family…feels like a ZERO! You can change your stars with LOVE.”
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
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Tags: adult attachment disorders, adult reactive attachment disorder, anxiety disorders,borderline mother, borderline personality disorder, brain development, child abuse,depression,derealization, disorganized disoriented insecure attachment disorder,dissociation,dissociative identity disorder, empathy, infant abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD),protective factors, PTSD, resiliency, resiliency factors, risk factors, shame
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