Monday, March 27, 2017. I was just wondering what the core difference between “injury” and “wounded” might be.
INJURY – word origins –
Middle English injurie, from Anglo-French, Latin injuria, from injurus injurious, from in- + jur-, jus right — more at just
First Known Use: 14th century
JUST – word origins –
Middle English, from Anglo-French & Latin; Anglo-French juste, from Latin justus, from jus right, law; akin to Sanskrit yos welfare
First Known Use: 14th century
WOUND – word origins —
Middle English, from Old English wund; akin to Old High German wunta wound
First Known Use: before 12th century
As I have written on this blog before, a major shift occurred for me at the instant I recognized the extent of the abuse I suffered during my first 18 years of life in terms of CRIMES.
I just typed “criminal” into the search window at the top of the blog thinking perhaps the post I wrote that day would show up. Perhaps it did. However, for all the posts that DO appear with that search, I do not specifically see the post I am thinking about right now.
I do know that on that day it hit me that if Mother did or attempted to do even ONE time to one of my neighbor children where I was living what she did thousands upon thousands times to me, police would have been called and off Mother would have been whisked!
Following this epiphany I just figured it out, ONLY for an approximate number of physical attacks – not counting any other aspect of the many other abuses she was allowed to do to me – her minimum jail sentence would have been 15,000 years.
But, of course, there was no such involvement on any level of “justice” in my case.
For decades in “recovery talk” people spoke of “wounds” as perhaps being more serious than “injuries” might be. Semantics? What I am thinking about this morning has more to do with how to get myself UNSTUCK from something painful that of course connects into pain from my severe trauma history. Once I realized that my inner focus in trying to get off of dead center regarding my concerns is connected to a sense of an “injustice” having been done – then, to me right now, whether or not I experience a wound, or wounding, is not a concern at the top of my “figure this out ASAP” pile.
I want to understand something I am not figuring out on my own right now, so I will certainly be taking this to my 2nd therapist appointment today. Being stuck is not remotely constructive!
I realize that for decades of my adult life I had friendships within which I could talk with others about anything and everything in my life – and in theirs. Those friendships do not exist in the same ways any more, even if those same people are still within my sphere of contact.
I miss those kinds of friendships terribly!
Here is my first book out in ebook format as it provides an outline of the conditions of my malevolent childhood. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
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