Tuesday, April 14, 2015.  What follows in this post are my morning’s thoughts about attachment.


Attachment occurs in a matrix, a creational/re-creational womb.

Attachment –

is at the core of human affairs and directs development and shapes responses

organizes relationships, all the way to the level of global civilization

is a form of intelligence commission and transmission

sets the patterns for interactions

is a living process and a process of living

literally enables and allows life to go on

shapes life

communicates the conditions of life

its patterns remember themselves within people from conception until death and communicate themselves down the generations

attachment has a language of its own

it shows itself through its patterns like everything else does that is a part of life

at each end of the continuum of human life attachment is life, un-attachment (detachment) is death (coherence/incoherence; generation/degeneration; movement toward order and complexity/toward disorder/lack of complexity)

in between, taken objectively, attachment talks to attachment

we are its carriers, its transmitters, expressers of the language of its signals

attachment is about resources (their availability/scarcity/accessibility) – it is about signals/communications about resource patterns.  without resources to sustain life there is death.

attachment is how life takes care of life as it prepares for its continuation (through time into the future)


taken from this angle attachment is a resource management system capable of communication about its operations

ongoing generations of human beings are recipients of benefits from improvements to resource (their availability/scarcity/accessibility) management.  because attachment processes have no ulterior motives and exist to manage resources and to communicate those concerns, attachment will improve as resource management improves

“resiliency” cannot, therefore, be conceived of as being outside this life support and enhancement system

given that this view of attachment is simplified as if considering the very building blocks of life itself it is possible to suggest that in whatever direction we turn we will find the essential processes of attachment in operation.

because we are considering humans, the apex of creation as we know it, and because the apex of humanity is the solidified, conscious, socially responsible self, it will be the experience of this self (its formation, maintenance and expression) that will suffer most when depleted resource management damages attachment and it will benefit most when adequate resource management allows attachment to flourish.  The former = degrees of (both organized and disorganized) insecure attachment and the latter = increasing degrees of safe and secure attachment.


In its essence I would call attachment love.  I would call this love spiritual.  I would say that a Creator we are incapable of comprehending loved creation into existence.

Attachment is the process of love in motion as it sustains existence in this world.  It is therefore fundamental and essential to life.  Because in this world humans have been given free will to make choices we can influence many attachment processes.

For this, in the next world, we will be held accountable.


On a practical level when it comes to current attempts to “measure” adult attachment the following maxims as they are considered to be reflected within rational ‘cooperative discourse’, and have been incorporated into the rating structure of the Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) used clinically and in research to assess adult attachment.

Grice’s Conversational Maxims

Maxim of Quantity:

  1. Make your contribution to the conversation as informative as necessary.
  2. Do not make your contribution to the conversation more informative than necessary.

Maxim of Quality:

  1. Do not say what you believe to be false.
    2. Do not say that for which you lack adequate evidence.

Maxim of Relevance:

Be relevant (i.e., say things related to the current topic of the conversation).

Maxim of Manner:

  1. Avoid obscurity of expression.
    2. Avoid ambiguity.
    3. Be brief (avoid unnecessary wordiness).
    4. Be orderly.

These maxims are mentioned in this post:



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