Friday, April 10, 2015.  Nothing like a trip back in time to get the mental blood flowing.  Back to origins.  Back to the beginning of time.  OUR time.  Each and every one of us.  Succored in the matrix of our mother’s womb.  At the beginning….

Although, as readers are aware (!!), I am uncomfortable with the SINGLE word “resiliency” I am at the same time completely comfortable with the paired words “resiliency factors.”  This is because long ago in my life I found for myself that my wordview is not comfortable “splitting archetypes” in such a way that one noun becomes disinherited by another in a kind of polarity contest (to put it most simply).  This tendency to split things in half seems to be very “Western” and perhaps our doing so is our attempt to dignify our experience living in this reality which is one of relativity – and therefore of relationships between “things” including ideas.

I NEVER think of “resiliency factors” without at the same time holding in my thoughts what is to me the WHOLENESS of this working concept as it HAS to also include “risk factors.”  There is a living organic RELATIONSHIP not only between these two factors but also, of course, a relationship with the individual person (in this case) who experiences them IN CONTEXT over the course of their lifespan from conception until death.

These factors are entirely interactional, entirely relative, entirely personal.  What might be a risk factor for one person can be a powerful resiliency factor for another person.  But one factor that is completely a PLUS for every single person is life in the matrix of the womb – or we would never GET HERE!

BUT, womb life can be a risk business for some.  Even our womb life is interactional with the environment we are growing within.  How could it not be?

I know fundamentally that my mother was happy and physically healthy while she carried me.  Without those nine calm months I do not believe I would have survived the hell of her abuse of me over the next 18 years.  (Her psychotic break that led directly to her abuse of me happened while she was birthing breech-me.)


All this – to highlight – something interesting that came through my email from the ACES CONNECTION  —


From this article:

The prenate (i.e., the unborn baby) is vulnerable in a number of ways that are generally unrecognized and unarticulated. Most people think or assume that prenates are unaware, and seldom attribute to them the status of being human.”

Theory and research from the last 20 years indicates that prenatal experiences can be remembered, and have lifelong impact. The major purpose of this article is to clarify the conditions under which prenatal experiences may be lifelong and to describe the theoretical and research perspectives that are necessary to understand the effects of prenatal traumatization.

The effects of prenatal traumatization cannot be predicted without knowledge of other factors, and prenatal experiences are likely to have lifelong impact when they are followed by reinforcing conditions or interactional trauma. The term interactional trauma means that traumas interact with each other in producing their effects. In statistical analyses, interactional means that the effects of factors depend on the presence of other factors. Both of these definitions communicate the meaning of interaction as it is used in this article.”



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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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NOTE:  I am stuck with a new version of the blog’s posting page that I do not like and cannot get out of.  It has refused to post or include my chosen tags:

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2 thoughts on “+WHAT HAPPENS IN THE WOMB MATTERS – Link to an article

  1. When I was pregnant I would sing amazing grace while holding my stomach. I was always flooding with emotion and cried happy tears every time I did it. When my youngest was about 2 months old he was having a hard time with gas issues and as a desperate attempt to calm him ( don’t know why I didn’t think to do it sooner) I started to sing amazing grace to him and was flooded with the same emotions as I was when pregnant. He immediately calmed and went to sleep. The realizations that hit me in that moment were nothing short of amazing.

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