Month: April 2015

+WHAT HAPPENS IN THE WOMB MATTERS – Link to an article

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Friday, April 10, 2015.  Nothing like a trip back in time to get the mental blood flowing.  Back to origins.  Back to the beginning of time.  OUR time.  Each and every one of us.  Succored in the matrix of our mother’s womb.  At the beginning….

Although, as readers are aware (!!), I am uncomfortable with the SINGLE word “resiliency” I am at the same time completely comfortable with the paired words “resiliency factors.”  This is because long ago in my life I found for myself that my wordview is not comfortable “splitting archetypes” in such a way that one noun becomes disinherited by another in a kind of polarity contest (to put it most simply).  This tendency to split things in half seems to be very “Western” and perhaps our doing so is our attempt to dignify our experience living in this reality which is one of relativity – and therefore of relationships between “things” including ideas.

I NEVER think of “resiliency factors” without at the same time holding in my thoughts what is to me the WHOLENESS of this working concept as it HAS to also include “risk factors.”  There is a living organic RELATIONSHIP not only between these two factors but also, of course, a relationship with the individual person (in this case) who experiences them IN CONTEXT over the course of their lifespan from conception until death.

These factors are entirely interactional, entirely relative, entirely personal.  What might be a risk factor for one person can be a powerful resiliency factor for another person.  But one factor that is completely a PLUS for every single person is life in the matrix of the womb – or we would never GET HERE!

BUT, womb life can be a risk business for some.  Even our womb life is interactional with the environment we are growing within.  How could it not be?

I know fundamentally that my mother was happy and physically healthy while she carried me.  Without those nine calm months I do not believe I would have survived the hell of her abuse of me over the next 18 years.  (Her psychotic break that led directly to her abuse of me happened while she was birthing breech-me.)

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All this – to highlight – something interesting that came through my email from the ACES CONNECTION  —

THE VULNERABLE PRENATE – Birth Psychology

From this article:

“The prenate (i.e., the unborn baby) is vulnerable in a number of ways that are generally unrecognized and unarticulated. Most people think or assume that prenates are unaware, and seldom attribute to them the status of being human.”

“Theory and research from the last 20 years indicates that prenatal experiences can be remembered, and have lifelong impact. The major purpose of this article is to clarify the conditions under which prenatal experiences may be lifelong and to describe the theoretical and research perspectives that are necessary to understand the effects of prenatal traumatization.”

“The effects of prenatal traumatization cannot be predicted without knowledge of other factors, and prenatal experiences are likely to have lifelong impact when they are followed by reinforcing conditions or interactional trauma. The term interactional trauma means that traumas interact with each other in producing their effects. In statistical analyses, interactional means that the effects of factors depend on the presence of other factors. Both of these definitions communicate the meaning of interaction as it is used in this article.”

READ MORE HERE

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+WHAT BUILDS HEALTHY – AND THAT MEANS HAPPY – HUMANS FROM THE START OF LIFE?

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Thursday, April 9, 2015.  My dear friend and fellow student of attachment-related trauma (of all possible kinds) done to infants and children, himself a fellow “tadpole” as he named survivors with Trauma Altered Development, just gifted me with two intriguing books – thank you!

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Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (2006) by Gordon Neufeld  (Author), Gabor Mate M.D. (Author)

Again, the book description from the above title link:

“International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction—their values, identity, and codes of behavior. This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming overly conformist, desensitized, and alienated, and being “cool” matters more to them than anything else.

Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence—and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children’s loyalty and love. This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all, Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their children.”

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Now here I am at the part of the post where I get to say something!  In nearing the end of another intense grandchildren caring week there is not much left of me to garner thoughts in language much beyond what a 32-month-old can understand.  But, really, that IS the point.

As Dr. Siegel – what is the word?  SHOUTS?  Preaches, screams, expounds?  What Siegel knows, what Siegel tells us is that what happens conception to age 3 not only wires up the body-brain of a new human being for a lifetime BUT also INTEGRATES the activity between brain (a part of the Central Nervous System) regions – connected together with everything else within us.

By age 3 new humans are essentially ready to roll onto the show room floor.  The rest of childhood?  A whole lot of fill in the blanks of missing information as it is fed INTO that most incredible structure in all known existence – THE HUMAN BRAIN – which will make the best use out of information that it can based exactly on what happened to that new person conception to age three.

PLEASE investigate this important information if you haven’t discovered Siegel before now!!  An online search for “daniel siegel” will enable you to access many valuable YouTube videos of his talks and a host of links to his life work’s expressions.  (His latest envelope-pushing, state-of-the-art thinking is currently not in the free access domain.  Sadly.)

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Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect (2012) by Jonice Webb (Author), Christine Musello (Contributor)

This book description is from Amazon.com at the title link (above):

“Running on Empty is the first self-help book about Emotional Neglect: an invisible force from your childhood which you can’t see, but may be affecting you profoundly to this day. It is about what didn’t happen in your childhood, what wasn’t said, and what cannot be remembered.

Do you sometimes feel as if you’re just going through the motions in life? Are you good at looking and acting as if you’re fine, but secretly feel lonely and disconnected? Perhaps you have a fine life and are good at your work, but somehow it’s just not enough to make you happy.

If so, you are not alone. The world is full of people who have an innate sense that something is wrong with them. Who feel they live on the outside looking in, but have no explanation for their feeling and no way to put it into words. Who blame themselves for not being happier.

If you are one of these people, you may fear that you are not connected enough to your spouse, or that you don’t feel pleasure or love as profoundly as others do. Perhaps when you do experience strong emotions, you have difficulty understanding or tolerating them. You may drink too much, or eat too much, or risk too much, in an attempt to feel something good.

In over twenty years of practicing psychology, many people have arrived in Jonice Webb’s office, driven by the threat of divorce or the onset of depression, or by loneliness, and said, “”Something is missing in me.””

Running on Empty will give you clear strategies for how to heal, and offers a special chapter for mental health professionals. In the world of human suffering, this book is an Emotional Smart Bomb meant to eradicate the effects of an invisible enemy.”

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The emotional neglect book….  At first thoughts those of us who endured horrendous direct emotional abuse (along with other horrors of trauma most cannot imagine) might approach this topic as a “fluff” kind of reading that could not possibly apply to us.

Although this book (I have only read to page 73 and then loaned the book to my daughter to read – hopefully) carries what I consider a “lighter” kind of message, it is an essential one.  At the very top of the list of people who so powerfully impacted me as a non-rescued child is my father who was essentially destroyed as a person by the emotional neglect he suffered from birth.

He LOST his chance 0-3 to build safe and secure attachments to ANY caregivers.  He LOST his chance to build a strong, clear self-within.  He was a complete sitting duck to be Mad Mother’s enabler and he fulfilled that role perfectly!

Every infant/child who did NOT have safe and secure attachment – which absolutely includes, in my thinking, people who PROTECT children from all harm – did experience emotional neglect on an essential level upon which all other abuses were heaped.  We were all human beings with emotional needs and we did NOT get them met.  In fact the evil opposite happened to us.  This matters.

Enough said for now.  I will not say anything more than this, as well:  I am greatly concerned about the high numbers of infants and children being left in large day care centers 50+ hours a week.  I do not think it is a good sign-of-the-times when mothers of a species abandon their offspring during their most critical stages of (attachment) development 0-3 into the care of strangers.

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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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+”RESILIENCY” DEBATE: ALL HUMANS CONTINUE TO EXIST BECAUSE WE LEARN TO

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Thursday, April 9, 2015.  What follows in this post is my reply to a conversation between myself and a fellow survivor of an in-survivable childhood about our questions regarding the current thinking about “resiliency.”  This conversation can be accessed here:  BRIEF COMMENTARY ON “RESILIENCY”

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Tina, fire meets fire in the two of us.  In the middle of my eleven hour day caring for young, needy little boys yesterday, as I stood washing dishes at the kitchen sink (I did not have time to read your posted comment until very late evening) I had the inner image come to me of people like us:  We are like fish who were able to come ashore, stand on legs and breath air.  Speaking of air, your words took my breath away.

This morning as I determine to write a reply to you in these brief moments before my w-year-old grandson arrives for yet another day of my care the word – the one simple word for which humans at present really have no true definition for – comes to mind:  Learning.

You and I LEARNED how to endure and survive what was done to us, the unimaginable brutality, the fundamental insane madness, the encroachment of evil done to small children – only we were somehow NOT helpless.  We were able, instant by instant, to LEARN as our lives passed through the time of our childhoods from birth, how to keep our inner self intact along with our body which houses us.

“Learning” is a much humbler word than “resiliency” is.  It carries no special stretch of thought to imagine.  Does a newborn learn how to cry?  Does an infant learn how to smile, roll over, sit up, crawl, walk?  I say my youngest grandson is learning to talk.  How is gaining the ability to talk any different than gaining the ability to crawl – or to survive the in-survivable?  For how we made it through to the other end DID come from within us.  Somehow.

To me it is this “somehow” as it applies to all I mention in this prior paragraph that needs to capture attention when considering how unbearable trauma is made bearable to those who survive it.  And for some, like my mother and your father, the ability to bear whatever happened to them during the most critical stages of their early life seemed to have forced madness to erupt without cessation.

There is no line between survival and triumph, absolute triumph, when it comes to people like you and me.  Of what shape and form was our lifeline?  This line of thought only sends me backward in my thinking.  Does a zygote learn to grow its body?  Does it grow only because it is so-called resilient?

And again I question even the growing collective body of thoughts about “attachment.”  It is essentially an attachment of self from the start of life to self that causes a life to move forward in time no matter what circumstances it may be traveling through.  Attachment is not a series of Hallmark Moments.  It is a very literal physiological process of interactive relationships that take place according to critically important discernable patterns that sustain, maintain life so that death does not occur.

It seems, Tina, that you and I could importantly collaborate on a book about these topics and our time, effort and investment would not be wasted.  If, however as I suspect, humans are involved in an organic process of learning right now it may be that a requisite level of maturity has not yet collectively been reached that would allow for comprehension of what we have to say.  What we know.

In the meantime you and I exist as chaos theorists discovered within that “mystic” space where creation itself takes place in the “insignificant” realms of statistical improbability.

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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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+TEMPORARY TRAUMA-BURDEN VACATIONS! (locating our trauma-healing peers)

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Tuesday, April 7, 2015.  (I have no idea why WordPress has confused type and size in this post.  There is no way I can correct this problem.  I DO NOT like whatever these new changes they have made to the post publishing process!)  Last evening I was able to communicate via shared comments on another public blog related to trauma with a stunningly remarkable survivor of “one of the worst of the worst” kinds of abusive trauma childhoods, much of it caused by parental severe mental illness and societal neglect of what was happening in that family especially to vulnerable children.  (As happened in my case.)

I felt something interesting I haven’t felt for quite some time by the end of the evening when I took my practice time to lay my fingers on keys to roll out the increasingly complicated scales I am working to learn.  After communicating with this survivor who KNEW my story as I KNEW her story – not exact details of course, but the nicely resonating patterns of notes played over chords – she and I harmonized – I could PLAY my scales with an ease I have not yet experienced in the five months I have been playing.

I felt like a massive burden, a great weight had at least temporarily been SHARED with another person in such a way as to lighten even my fingers, and certainly my mind as the anxiety of chronic “distress” temporarily lifted from me.

Which led me today to think about how it may be a consequence for those severe early abuse survivors (I am talking insanely intense and high ACE scores and negative-zero resiliency as it is currently being measured) – of the fact that we are choosing to heal, choosing to keep as much trauma drama along with the people who would create it in our lives OUT of our lives, are living free of addictions as much as possible, etc. – that we can feel SO ALONE, so LONELY, so unable to experience EMPATHY coming to us from other people who cannot even imagine what happened to us and “what our life is like now.”

Our healing, our self-education, the choices and actions we take and have taken to heal from trauma send us out into a different kind of world that we will never actually match.  “Those others” have NO idea about severe trauma – and it is forbidden in our culture from speaking about it.

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I could write a lot about this, but now isn’t the time.  These are contextual kinds of thoughts and realizations for me.  They directly relate to this:

+Dr. Teicher’s ARTICLE ON TRAUMA ALTERED DEVELOPMENT

*Notes on Teicher

I experienced a literal kind of freedom from this OTHER and ADDITIONAL burden of being in a “better world” while being barred from describing MY world to anyone else.  I am so used to that experience – at least currently in my life – that I was nearly SHOCKED last night that I felt so different, so much better.  I felt connected, understood in that kind of way I think non-severe trauma people take absolutely for granted all of the time!

If you haven’t taken a look at Dr. Teicher’s work, I am very seriously suggesting the article above as  a MUST READ – please do so!  And here are a few more links – there are plenty online to his work.  There is also a trauma information jackpot at the end of an online search for terms:  “martin teacher verbal abuse”

+SOME ARTICLES FROM DR. MARTIN H. TEICHER – AN EXPERT ON THE CONSEQUENCES OF CHILDHOOD ABUSE

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And a few other links to related writing on this blog:

+SOME LIKE IT THIS WAY

+BEING A SPECIAL NEEDS CASE

++DAMAGE AND REPAIR

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And just for a tidbit of research and study candy, do online search for “jaak panksepp research” for a real treat.

I mention this briefly because of a peripheral series of thoughts I am having today related to feeling at least briefly a whole lot freer to me a happier me last night.  I have no idea where to find the specific research article I am thinking of among the 10,000 pages/post pages on this blog but I REMEMBER something that I THINK came from the direction of Panksepp, who engages in primate and other animal research.

Probably nearly 10 years ago now I discovered in that rather magical way that studying research online can work an article that wrote about how primates who have been exposed to the creation of lesions in different brain regions depending on what was being studied – and then were turned out into (in this case) a very large and “nice” (yeah, I know….) outdoor confine.

Researchers discovered by surprise that all primates with the same kind of lesion/same brain area grouped themselves together and had nothing whatsoever to do with other groups.  In other words, what I am saying about how there is an isolation/loneliness consequence we survivors who are trying to heal experience because we have “left the group of our so-wounded kind” and are now, as Teicher describes it, are in a “mismatch” situation within a world of far more safe and securely attached people (as are even those with the “organized” insecure attachment disorders – compared to us these others are SO much better off and less traumatized than are those of us with the “disorganized” insecure attachment-built body/nervous system/ brain).

Those researchers accidentally discovered that by instinct like found like among those brain lesioned animals.  They stayed together.  Those of us working to heal our self from the most severely traumatic abuse and neglect in infancy and throughout our childhood (as per highest ACE scores) do have “brain changes” as the first Teicher article I posted above describes.

This is why it is so vital that we locate link up with OUR kind wherever we can find YOU!

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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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+WHAT MIGHT LOVE FEEL LIKE? A “RESILIENCY FACTOR” STORY FROM MY ABUSIVE CHILDHOOD

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Monday, April 6, 2015.  While I don’t understand my point exactly in writing this post it seems to be one that has moved past the perculation stage into WRITE ME NOW.  So here is a little more about my personal conflicts with the concept of “resiliency” as it may be achieving a generic standing within the “healing trauma” circles.

The adult human body is made up of about 37 trillion cells.  The United States Census Bureau estimates that the world population exceeded 7 billion on March 12, 2012.  To do research that tried to extrapolate meaningful information about ALL cells or ALL people based on a small sample of ONE would be ludicrous.

Nobody can determine each individual’s experiences with trauma in such a way that the data generated could be made useful to anyone, let alone everyone!  So naturally what I have lived through and what I know as a result of my studies about what happened to me and how I survived it will never fit into any clear “significant probability” statistic with meaning.  I can, however, share parts of my story to illustrate points important to me.

I am sharing a story included on this blog that I certainly am NOT going to read right now.  I may never return to read it again.  (This is often the case with my own childhood stories once written, which is why my ace professional researcher and writer daughter is my editor for our books.  She has not yet proofed the story at this link.)

*Age 8 – BLOODY NOSE

What I wish to say about the experience detailed in this story as it connects to my standpoint on “resiliency” is that had I NOT gone through this event I do not believe I would have come out of my childhood having ANY sense of what “feeling loved” felt like.

The story is of trauma, true, but for me having my family gathered around me as I was nearly bleeding to death was the ONLY clear time of my 18-year childhood that I felt I belonged to this family.  It was the ONLY time that the feeling I lived with all of rest of my childhood from birth that I was at any moment, out of nowhere (my mother was psychotically mentally ill with me as her abuse target as my book at link below describes) going to be brutally attacked was absent.

This event COULD have been a very low spot – what I call a risk factor moment —  in my horrifying childhood rather than being the powerful, necessary (to me) resiliency factor moment that I built upon to successfully raise my own children and to care about others.  (In my case, I believe in what I call “borrowed secure attachment” rather than in “earned secure attachment” – a online search of terms “stop the storm borrowed secure attachment” will highlight some related posts.)

There is no possible “resiliency measurement tool” that could capture what truly traumatic childhoods are/were like.  But in the interest of preserving the integrity of useful data through meticulous research what is found MUST be processed by thinkers steeped in the depths of what early trauma IS.  The impeccable artistry and beauty of individual survivor’s lives must not be lost in the mad rush to understand what numbers-only are telling us.

Only with this understanding can any useful thinking about a vague concept like “resiliency” be made to pull its weight in efforts to understand and stop trauma and to assist those who survive it to increase their well-being across their lifespan.

I learned all I was going to find out in the 18 years of my childhood about what love-of-Linda was going to feel like.  All I was going to learn about what love might be like PERIOD I learned during those moments.  I believe traumatized children notice every possible useful bit of information and make PROFOUNDLY amazing good use of those tidbits.  That kind of resiliency, if we are going to call it that, is to me nothing more or less than the will to survive coupled with accumulating the tools necessary to do so.

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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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+A WORD ABOUT “RESILIENCY” – A CONCEPT MISAPPLIED AND MISUNDERSTOOD?

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Sunday, April 5, 2015.  Easter day among Christians.  A day of resurrection, of hope and healing.

Speaking of which, I feel very fortunate to have just received a comment on this blog today about this reader’s new blog entitled “Guiding Hope – Let Hope Rise” – and it is BEAUTIFUL!!

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My life is very intense these days.  I am not left with much inner time or space for writing here, so this will be a rather indirect and short post.  There is a picture on Facebook by EARTHWORKS’s Page I am posting the specific link to RIGHT HERE.  It shows two pictures of a California reservoir and lake side by side.  On the left is the full lake and on the right is a pitiful remnant of water as drought and fracking have dangerously depleted this water supply.

I notice that even those supporting the Centers for Disease Control’s (CDC) Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) research and findings are still using the concept of “resilience” and “resiliency” AS IF someone knows what this means in reference to survival of severe early trauma.

Briefly, I am opposed to this concept.  Most simply put in today’s writings I refer to the reservoir image at the above link to Facebook if you can access it to illustrate what I deeply feel and believe.

Those people who come out of a dangerous, malicious, malevolent, abusive, traumatic early life – and without safe and secure attachment — in essence have little access throughout their lifespan to an array of essential resources that non-survivor “people” recognize and take for granted so that high ACE-score people’s reservoir matches the image of the pitiful depleted lake.

With those depleted essential resources survivors MAXIMIZE their lives!  Not only do we survive what should not be survived most often from birth but we exist as caring, compassionate, giving people who sacrifice greatly to help OTHER people – including those we love most dearly – MAXIMIZE their resources.

But we often do this by depleting our inner resources in ways we do not detect often until way, way down the road of our lives.  We give and give and love and love and help and help and sacrifice and sacrifice until finally  – if we are not very, very astute and careful – we make it to the ending stretches of our life being left with nearly next to NOTHING.

On top of this predicament very few low-ACE score (safely and securely attached people) EVER know who we are, what happened to us, what it took to survive, and how we sustain our ever-giving willingness to share even our scarce, rare and precious resources with others.

“Regular people” need to become willing to LISTEN to us.  Yes, the power being provided by the CDC ACE research is finally making its way as ripples into the awareness of the public on many important levels.  But, from my point of view, bandying about the concept of “resiliency” is not all that helpful to survivors.

We have done incredible things with our depleted reservoir of resources.  If that is not “resiliency” that we have had and developed and used heartily ALL of our lives, I can’t begin to imagine what “others” are thinking that concept means.  WE DO NOT NEED MORE RESILIENCY.  That is “blaming the victim” mentality.

What WE need, what everyone who is unjustly suffering needs – is for those people who DO have full reservoirs, plenty of resources, to wake up to the truth!!  In this world of haves vs have nots, in this world where terrible conditions are allowed to threaten infants and children and even their caregivers, what we have is ignorance that can foster bias and prejudice against those who suffer most.

Education is a must!  Many non-survivors have no tolerance when it comes to investigating what the suffering of others really is.  The truth makes those others too uncomfortable.  “Get some resiliency going, folks!  Toughen up, learn the truth, put your efforts into the work of truly healing this world!  Ignorance does not set you free, and getting “more and better resiliency” is NOT going to make a high ACE-score survivor have anything like a magically better life.  What we need is the added resource of YOU!”

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Story Without Words:  How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?

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