Motives – hidden or blatant? It is not my motive to ‘bad mouth’ my mother as I work toward publication of this story of her abuse of me – of her mental illness – of the TRUTH as I can perhaps discover and elucidate it.
Where is the truth hidden in our nation? How is it that speaking ILL of perpetrators makes the survivor who dares to speak up — to utter the words about what happened and about how that mattered — a truth-saying villain?
My work is not about vilifying anyone, but neither is it about soft-shoeing around what SOMEONE needs to say! There are patterns to madness – and there are patterns to abuse. Detection and study of these patterns COULD be helpful. I sure don’t see that this work can be HURTFUL.
But to some people — it is. To some people, those of us who dare to think and write about and search for and discover and try to learn learn learn about what harms especially infants and children — those of us who speak the truth as we reach and work for learning — can often be told in all kinds of ways that WE are defective!
Defective in what ways, exactly?
Defective that we don’t have “A full life” (read a “good life,” a “better than you have – what’s wrong with YOU life” – Shame shame!)? Defective that we dare to go against THIS social rule? “If, on the other hand you ever have anything positive to say about anyone do not hesitate to” — say it?
And how is the rest of the story supposed to read?
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I wonder if it is worth exploring the notion of intent behind actions experienced as abusive e.g., what was that person intending to achieve through their action???
Hi! Important question -!