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While individual survivors of abuse and trauma might remain in their suspended-animation state of patient (silent) endurance that allowed them to survive their trauma(s) in the first place, TRAUMA itself is NEVER silent.

In today’s world where survivors patiently remain suffering ‘patients’ wounded and damaged by abuse and trauma while the non-survivors go live a happier life with more well-being, TRAUMA itself spreads it loud and messy signals all over the place through patterns that we can most clearly name – Trauma Dramas.

Because our species had all kinds of ways to communicate well before we obtained our verbal abilities (about 140,000 years ago) we still have these very ancient preverbal and nonverbal communication abilities built within us.  Trauma acts itself out in survivors’ lives until somebody, somewhere LISTENS to the messages that trauma contains within it.

We seem to have lost our ability to track the ‘un-verbal’ ways trauma continues to communicate its presence and its message to and among us.  My mother, who never in her lifetime could NAME the fact that she was wounded as a child, could never TALK about her abuse and trauma and had no WORDS she could use simply continued to patiently carry the burden of surviving her trauma throughout her lifetime.

But I promise you trauma spread its presence around through my mother’s life in everything she ever did.  If anyone had been able to read trauma’s signals and actually listened to her ‘un-verbal’ messages, something different could have happened in her life and in her family’s.

If we can train ourselves to recognize when trauma is communicating through the ancient human avenue of DRAMATIC reenactments, and what the trauma drama is SAYING, we have a pretty good chance of STOPPING the STORM of the intergenerational transmission of traumas that continue to act themselves out because they have something important to say and will NOT shut up until somebody listens and learns.

Infant-child abuse is clearly one of these trauma drama reenactments – and this abuse will NOT stop until somebody listens and learns what the trauma within and behind the drama has to tell us.  (Clue:  I’ve stated what this message is on this blog MANY TIMES!)

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This is the third post in today’s series about patiently enduring trauma (including trauma from abuse).

(1)  +OWNING THE BURDENS CREATED BY CHILD ABUSE

(2) +TRAUMA AND ABUSE SURVIVORS: TROUBLE WHEN WE ARE ALONE WITH OUR PATIENCE TOO LONG

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