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Like writing a revised weather forecast there is something I need to say.  Nature does not make mistakes.  If severe early trauma (in unsafe and insecure attachment environments) builds ‘disordered’ empathic abilities into a little suffering one’s body-brain, this happens for a USEFUL reason.

It strikes me that when I wrote that empathic contamination results when one person’s suffering is directly COMPOUNDED by another person’s suffering this can be considered as the operation of ‘unhealthy boundaries’ between the two.

It also strikes me that if ten people are trapped in a burning building they are sharing trauma.  The chances of being rescued improve if all ten shout for help as loudly as the can together and at the same time.

So as I experience an increase in my own experience of suffering at the same time I contemplate the current suffering of probably half of our nation’s infant-children, I see that this means my body has been built by my own early trauma to KNOW the suffering of those little ones as if I am in the burning building right along with them.

I suspect this is, in fact, what happens with ALL TRAUMA DRAMA.  Everyone entrapped within the trauma drama is suffering together as the dramatic reenactments of unresolved traumas that have traveled on down the generations actually represents A COMBINED SCREAM FOR HELP.

Suffering of the one is suffering to the whole while in the middle of trauma.  Those that can give care, that can rescue, that can save, that can solve the problems the trauma has and is creating ARE ON THE OUTSIDE of the actual trauma happening — not within it.

Nature has no doubt created the ability within humans to ‘blur individual boundaries into a combined whole’ for exactly this reason.  Like the image of the combined flames of individually held candles being brighter to light up the night, those of us who have disordered empathy can amplify the cries of ‘save me’ by adding our voice to the call of all the suffering others who are crying the same thing.  The cry then becomes louder and louder, “SAVE US!”

The question in my mind then becomes, “Who is it on the outside who can hear the cries of the suffering?  Will they hear?  Will they respond?  Do they care enough to have the empathy coupled with compassion coupled with desire coupled with intent coupled with resources to HELP?”

And my own conflict within myself right now has to do with WISHING I was on the outside looking in on the trauma rather than being on the inside crying out.

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+INSECURE ATTACHMENT = DISORDERED EMPATHY

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