If you weighed one hundred pounds and someone placed you on one end of a teeter totter facing a thousand pound gorilla on the other end, and then told you to get both of your feet on the ground, how exactly would you do that?
Our expectations of recovery for our selves and for others after exposure to major traumatic events can be this ridiculous. Just saying or thinking, “Oh well, they should have been more resilient,” does more harm than good. It only shows that we are talking to the wrong end of the horse.
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Your list of things that weren’t wrong with your childhood was interesting (I need more words that “interesting” to describe your writing — but if I waited for inspiration, I might never comment!). I didn’t know that about your mom and her protectiveness toward the wildflowers. Also, it is an effective image — a picture of your mom healthy, with rancid goo smeared all over the glass.