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Saturday, January 30, 2016. I am so grateful that somehow the timing of my need to know the truth about how what happened to me – the trauma of it for the first 18 years of my life – affected me that the SCIENCE was in the process of not only learning these kinds of facts but also that the miracle of the internet made the information accessible to me!!
And now I am refining my gratitude to include how amazing – and GOOD – it was that I had spent those 4 or 5 years studying what I could find about trauma and developmental neuroscience before I began to encounter the Centers for Disease Control’s (CDC) Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) research study and its findings.
I think this is all part of MY destiny. I think these new learnings are a part of the destiny of the entire human race! We are in the early years of the global maturation of the human race toward building for ourselves a peaceful, equitable world civilization.
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I just watched (yet again) what I believe to be the best presentation of the CDC ACE study research and application of those findings to healing – well – most ALL OF US that I think can be located anywhere on the planet! Adverse Childhood Experience: ACES — Laura Porter
I just paused a YouTube video presented by the Institute for Safe Families of a talk given by the doctor who designed the CDC ACE study so I could write this brief post.
PLEASE at least watch Laura’s video! There is nothing more important for us to know about intergenerational trauma and its healing! Laura’s talk is clear and easy to understand – and if you are not already aware of the ACEs info along with ways to implement healing changes – you are in for a treat!
Need to know info!
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Here is our first book out in ebook format. Click here to view or purchase–
Story Without Words: How Did Child Abuse Break My Mother?
It lists for $2.99 and can be read by Amazon Prime customers without charge. A daring book – for daring readers – about a really tough subject.
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Stop the Storm 
Dear Linda, I have long admired your work! My name is Kay, I am the executive director for the National Alliance For Targeted Parents. We are parents who are fighting our ex-partners, who have narcissistic and/or borderline personality disorders from abusing our children. Most of us have been in courts for years, and have lost everything including contact with our children. Our distrubed ex-partners abused us also but then told us that we would regret divorcing them (which we did to protect our children). The abusers terrified our children into suppressing their attachment for us and used them as weapons to hurt their TARGET – us. We are tortured souls. CPS and family courts have been useless, – they don’t understand the pure trauma of child psychological abuse, so we are uniting in a campaign to get the world to hear us. A brand new book, Parents Acting Badly, by Jennifer Harman and Z. Brignin (sp?) is based on research with targeted parents and explains the crisis very well. The researcher who finally linked us with the world of attachment and trauma is Dr. Craig Childress.
I would be honored if we could connect and that I could support you through our website (targetedparent.com) or google the National Alliance for Targeted Parents. I don’t use wordPress very often. My email is targeted mom@gmail.com.
Thank you for leading the world to a kinder place!
Respectfully,
kay
Thank you for writing here, and for your support and affirmations! Please feel free to repost any post from this blog into the blog on this Alliance site. Be sure to click on the title of a blog post if needed to get the specific URL to get this to appear active on some other blog. I am so sorry for your suffering, and for the suffering of so many others – and for the suffering of your children. Such a HELL!!
I had a therapist decades ago who heard me tell of my childhood abuse from my Borderline mother (a diagnostic category which did not even exist at the time) and recommended this book – which I still believe applies to this topic —
People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil – Jan 2, 1998
by M. Scott Peck
at this link — http://www.amazon.com/People-Lie-Hope-Healing-Human/dp/0684848597/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1454200449&sr=1-1&keywords=scott+peck+people+of+the+lie
There is a strong FEELING, as Peck describes, that exists when in the presence of people suffering from these mental illnesses. There is a very big problem with the fact that adults who had traumatic, high ACE score childhoods are most often not able to identify that feeling – or to act in ways to keep themselves SAFE by AVOIDING AT ALL COSTS involvement with these people.
In watching the two videos whose links are contained in the post today that this is in comment/reply to show that a strong beginning is being made because of the power in the ACEs model and research in being able to reach and heal young people – and their families — who have the high trauma high ACE score histories that so sadly and painfully lead in many ways to “attachment relationships” with those who suffer from these mental illnesses involved in the horrors you are relating.
Forming networks such as this one you are involved with foster growth and learning in ways that I can’t imagine ever mitigate the pain of your experiences — but that can offer positive and healing support within the context of such suffering.
Most people, if they are informed, can look around them in their lives — into their own life, their family’s history, the lives of coworkers, friends, etc. — and see patterns that suggest these mental illnesses are “at work” in destructive ways. We ALL need to understand these complexes. It remains for the future to unravel what causes these illnesses, and what can be done “about them.” Although my perspective is, to many, controversial and drastic, I simply believe for myself that if I EVER feel “that feeling” Peck describes when meeting a person or while being in interaction with them — I will END that contact immediately and forever.
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Here is a related book to this comment (which I have not read):
An Attachment-Based Model of Parental Alienation: Foundations Paperback – May 28, 2015
by C.A. Childress Psy.D. (Author)
4.9 out of 5 stars 34 customer reviews
Book’s blurp on amazon.com
“The construct of “parental alienation” has a controversial history. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” brings the controversy to an end. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” uses established constructs and principles of professional psychology to fully describe the psychological and interpersonal processes that create the symptom features of “parental alienation.” By defining “parental alienation” within standard and established psychological principles and constructs, an attachment-based model identifies a set of specific diagnostic indicators that can reliably identify “parental alienation” while differentiating “parental alienation” from other sources of parent-child conflict. An attachment-based model for the construct of “parental alienation” also identifies specific domains of professional expertise and knowledge necessary for the professionally competent diagnosis and treatment of this special population of children and families. Children deserve a childhood free from the stress of their parents’ conflict, and parents deserve to love and be loved by their children. An attachment-based model of “parental alienation” represents an important step in creating a solution to the family tragedy of “parental alienation” in high-conflict divorce.”
link to book here – http://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Based-Model-Parental-Alienation-Foundations/dp/0996114505
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Here is the active link to the National Alliance for Targeted Parents — http://www.targetedparent.com/ — and on their homepage: “THE NATIONAL ALLIANCE FOR TARGETED PARENTS, INC. IS A NON-PROFIT, GRASSROOTS, ORGANIZATION DEDICATED TO EMPOWERING AND SUPPORTING PARENTS TO STOP THEIR (EX)PARTNER WHO DISPLAYS NARCISSISTIC/BORDERLINE ABUSIVE PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR, FROM PSYCHOLOGICALLY ABUSING THEIR FAMILIES.”
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I have been BLESSED in my adulthood to have been able to avoid entanglement with a personality disorder person. The first 18 years of my life being abused by a severely mentally ill psychotic borderline was nothing I could avoid. I am so sorry for ALL SUFFERING such mental illnesses cause to ANYONE!