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At first I thought I was going to post all of this as a comment which requires this format for links to be active. Now that I have changed my mind and have moved all of this over here, I am leaving the “ugly” version of the active links — because I am too lazy to alter how this appears. I have a whole bunch of vegetables crying in the fridge because they want to be all chopped up and cooked into soup. (I am adding a few more links (not vegies) at the bottom in the old-fashioned format!)
I was trying to find past posts related to the topic of SHAME. Well, I guess anything I have ever written about severe infant-child abuse and trauma is about shame. So, while these posts might not be as specific as they COULD be, they are as specific a collection as will be the vegetables in my eventual pot of soup!
Posts on this blog related to what WE need to know about shame — and have a hard time finding:
+THOUGHTS ON THE TRIGGER POINT OF SHAME
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/07/thoughts-on-the-trigger-point-of-shame/
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+EARLY ORIGIN OF OUR ONGOING EXPERIENCE OF SHAME AND FORGIVENESS
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+SEIGEL ON SHAME
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/emotions/the-shame-spectrum/seigel-on-shame/
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**Shame
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/?s=shame
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++ DR. SCHORE ON SHAME
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*The Shame Spectrum
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/emotions/the-shame-spectrum/
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+WHEN PEOPLE TRY TO SHUT US UP
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2012/12/19/when-people-try-to-shut-us-up/
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+POST FOR CHILD ABUSE SURVIVORS: WHAT CAN WE KNOW FROM AN INNER ‘CRINGE’?
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+HOP! HOP! THE BLOG FROG’S PICK OF PAST POSTS
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/10/16/hop-hop-the-blog-frogs-pick-of-past-posts/
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+THE ESSENCE OF JOY IN THE ABSENCE OF PAIN AND SORROW
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https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/07/28/the-essence-of-joy-in-the-absence-of-pain-and-sorrow/
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+HEALING FROM ABUSE: FINDING MY OWN GOODNESS AND STICK TO THAT
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+A COLLECTION OF LINKS ON BODY-BRAIN CHANGES CAUSED BY EARLY INFANT-CHILD ABUSE
+PITY HURTS, COMPASSION HEALS: KNOWING THE DIFFERENCE
+AS HARD AS OUR ABUSER(S) TRIED, THEY DID NOT HAVE THE POWER TO TOUCH US!
+TO BE OR NOT TO BE — HUMAN OR OBJECT: EARLY ATTACHMENT PATTERNS DECIDE AS THEY BUILD OUR ANS
+DISSOCIATION AS AN ALLERGIC REACTION TO ABUSE
+RESLIENCY FACTORS AND THE ‘AT LEAST….’ GAME
+DISSOCIATION: THE SURVIVOR’S CURSE?
+SEVERE EARLY ABUSE SURVIVORS: LEARNING TO READ, IT’S MORE THAN YOU THINK
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Again, no matter what I have ever read in the self-help tradition, including 10 years in AA and a decade of therapy in the 80s — what I needed to be told was not mentioned — in fact, wasn’t “discovered” — the fact that severe early abuse and trauma changes our physiological development on all levels (directly related to unsafe and insecure attachment conditions) is what I needed to know — and fortunately I have lived long enough for that info to be presented and I found it
Good morning, Terri! I kept thinking yesterday and forgot to mention about the 1980s classic writer who did SO MUCH GOOD for uncountable numbers of people — John Bradshaw. I went to amazon.com and found that he is still writing or at least has a newer edition of this – and on the money, I bet! Will be interested to hear what Sandy might know of this book:
Healing the Shame that Binds You
The world is changing so fast! Being 61 (I thought all year until recently that I was 62!) I remember when the door began to crack open ever so slightly by the TV programs this man did.
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I just post ‘old’ blog links once in a while — there is no way to categorize/index posts for later access on this blog by topic — so these are all just in case someone finds even one little thought that can help clarify some mystery related to suffering. Hopefully people follow their gut around them until just the right thought pops up —
Good to hear from you! The soup only had time to half cook last evening, so back onto the burner it went this morning for the rest of its cooking. Bad night sleeping – oh, well! Some nights are wonderful for sleeping, and I am always so grateful for them!
Hope your day brings you hope, healing and quiet joy! Linda