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This is a blog post that will keep many readers busy for many days if they share concerns with a blog reader here who posted this today:
I have been thinking about this for months and dont really know if there is an answer. I know what happens in the brain if infants who suffer form severe neglect and abuse. I just saw Dr Bruce Perry yesterday on anderson cooper talking about the effects on the brain. He even showed cat skans of a brain of a normal 3 year old and next to it one that had severed severe neglect.
I may write about it. but what i hope u can write on is what I often wonder about.
Someone like my brother…it is obvious why he has anti social and lacks so many abilities ..including slower cgnition, reasoning,lack of empathy,insight. But someone like you..who also suffered from infant abuse and severe neglect doesn’t have those same issues .why????
Why do u have very high intelligence and reasoning abilities? Why do u have amazing self introspection and sensitivity to self and to others?
This part I dont undertsnad? I know u have anxiety and other impairments that affect yours ADL’s…but you did not develep a personality disorder.
can u write about this?
I think many wonder why some people go on to develop BPD and others….with severe neglect do not . why?
xoxoxo
I cannot return to each topic on this blog as time goes on to repeat information that has already been written before, so I decided to poke around in the Stop the Storm archives for some articles that might prove interesting or useful in some way — because I really need to get back to my book-writing project. Thank you commenter and readers!! I hope at least a few questions will be answered in the posts listed at these links below:
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This list of post links from this blog is in this format because it is also posted in a comment reply section that does not hyperlink the titles. Here you should be able to click on the web address directly below the title to reach each of my articles.
There may well be duplicates in this list but I am about brain dead at this moment from searching these out and copying them into this format. If readers find duplicates please just comment to this post and let me know what titles appear more than once and I can fix this.
+WHAT SETS ASIDE A BORDERLINE PARENT’S CHILD ABUSE AS ‘DIFFERENT’? at
+EARLY ABUSE SURVIVORS SUCH AS MY MOTHER WAS – PROGRAMMED TO SURVIVE AT ALL COSTS at
+WORD WARRIOR NEWS: MY BROKEN, BROKEN, BROKEN MOTHER at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/word-warrior-news-my-broken-broken-broken-mother/
+A REFRESHER ON ATTACHMENT AND RESILIENCY at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/05/01/a-refresher-on-attachment-and-resiliency/
+HOW DOES THE SELF GET FORMED? HERE’S A WHOLE LOT OF IMPORTANT INFO at
+CONSCIOUS AWARENESS AND EMOTIONAL AROUSAL REGULATION at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/19/conscious-awareness-and-emotional-arousal-regulation/
+IN THE ABSENCE OF LAUGHTER at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/01/20/in-the-absence-of-laughter/
*RESILIENCY – WHY I’M ALIVE – NOT A MYSTERY at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/my-adulthood-stories/resiliency-why-im-alive-not-a-mystery/
+FORGIVENESS AND EARLY BETRAYAL at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/05/22/forgiveness-and-early-betrayal/
*Disorganized angel-demon thinking at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/attachment/disorganized-angel-demon-thinking/
*GENETICS OF DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT
++SCHORE ON MATERNAL-INFANT MIND SHAPING at
*Notes on Schore at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/attachment/notes-on-schore/
+THE RESILIENCY MYTH at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/04/19/the-resiliency-myth/
+THEORY OF MIND – BORDERLINE MOTHER’S BROKEN CHILDHOOD MIND at
+THINKING ABOUT THINKING (PART ONE): WHOSE PROBLEM IS IT? at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/02/02/thinking-about-thinking-part-one-whose-problem-is-it/
+THINKING ABOUT THINKING (PART TWO): FIRST, SELF-RECOGNITION at
+WHAT REALLY HAPPENED TO US: VIOLENT TRAUMA, MALTREATMENT, ATTACHMENT – BIRTH TO AGE THREE (and beyond) at
+TRANSPARENCY AND MY CHANGED SOCIAL BRAIN at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/04/30/transparency-and-my-changed-social-brain/
+INFANT-CHILD ABUSE: WHEN THE BOUGH BREAKS, THE BRAIN CHANGES at
+CHILD ABUSE: IN THE ABSENCE OF THE PRESENCE OF GOODNESS at
+THE ‘TERROR-ABLE’ CONSEQUENCES OF INFANT-CHILDHOOD VERBAL ABUSE at
+MISSING LAUGHTER IN MY MOTHER’S MONKEY HOUSE at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/01/14/missing-laughter-in-my-mothers-monkey-house/
+NOTES FROM STEKLIS AND KLING ON NEUROBIOLOGY OF AFFILIATION at
+++MORE HENRY ON BRAIN AND EMOTION at
**DAMASIO ON CONSCIOUSNESS
++IMMUNE RESPONSE TO MATERNAL SEPARATION at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/attachment/immune-response-to-maternal-separation/
++DAMAGE AND REPAIR at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/about-stop-the-stor/our-earliest-start/damage-and-repair/
++HIPPOCAMPUS at
*Notes on Hippocampus at
POWER OF PLAY AND THE MEMORIES OF PLAY at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/05/05/power-of-play-and-the-memories-of-play/
*Pupil size in empathy at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/attachment/empathy-2/pupil-size-in-empathy/
+DECONTAMINATING AN ABUSIVE CHILDHOOD WITH A BORDERLINE MOTHER – IS IT POSSIBLE? at
+EARLY INFANT-CHILD STRESSFUL TRAUMA CHANGES DEVELOPMENT: TELL US WHAT WE NEED TO KNOW – NOW!! at
+OPTIMISM/STRESS RESPONSE: WHEN THE AMYGDALA REMEMBERS GOOD/BAD SEPARATETLY at
+PATTERNS OF TRAUMA-DRAMA-MEMORY REPETITIONS AS THE BASIS OF MY MOTHER’S BORDERLINE MIND at
+OVERWHELMED BY TRAUMA, OVERWHELMED BY WORDS: LINK TO AN ARTICLE ABOUT TRAUMA DRAMA THAT CAN HELP US at
+A COLLECTION OF LINKS ON BODY-BRAIN CHANGES CAUSED BY EARLY INFANT-CHILD ABUSE at
+WHAT IT TAKES TO SURVIVE (LONG POST ABOUT RESILIENCY-IN-HELL) at
+CREATING A TIMELINE OF OUR EARLIEST LIFE – PUTTING ORDER/ORGANIZATION TO TRAUMA/CHAOS at
+EARLY ABUSE SURVIVORS SUCH AS MY MOTHER WAS – PROGRAMMED TO SURVIVE AT ALL COSTS at
+BEFRIENDING CHAOS? (EARLY ABUSE SURVIVORS AND CHOICE) at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/04/08/befriending-chaos-early-abuse-survivors-and-choice/
+AS HARD AS OUR ABUSER(S) TRIED, THEY DID NOT HAVE THE POWER TO TOUCH US! at
+OUR BODY-BRAIN BALANCE BETWEEN ‘PEACE’ AND ‘ALARM’ at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/03/03/our-body-brain-balance-between-peace-and-alarm/
+THINKING ABOUT THINKING (PART FOUR): SEVERE INFANT ABUSE SURVIVORS’ UNIQUE WORLDVIEW at
+CLEAR ARTICLE ON LIFELONG INFANT-CHILD TRAUMA CONSEQUENCES at
+TO BE OR NOT TO BE — HUMAN OR OBJECT: EARLY ATTACHMENT PATTERNS DECIDE AS THEY BUILD OUR ANS at
+IN THE MIDST OF CYCLES OF TRAUMA: THE ANGUISH-ANGER CONNECTION at
+LINKS – VAGUS NERVE – ABUSE- HEALING at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2011/01/02/links-vagus-nerve-abuse-healing/
+LINKS TO SOME POPULAR POSTS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/a-book-being-born/links-to-some-popular-posts/
+’FIGHTING ANGER’ IS GOOD FOR US at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/12/09/fighting-anger-is-good-for-us/
+’MAKING SENSE’ OUT OF ABUSE/TRAUMA – FINDING THE CONTEXT at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/11/30/making-sense-out-of-abusetrauma-finding-the-context/
+TRANSITIONAL OBJECTS AND THWARTED ATTACHMENT at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/transtional-objects-and-thwarted-attachment/
+IN PURSUIT OF USEFUL INFORMATION: INFANT ABUSE MEMORY RETRIEVAL at
+CLARIFYING MY PERSPECTIVE: INFANT ABUSE IN THE 5% at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/11/07/clarifying-my-perspective-infant-abuse-in-the-5/
+MY ABUSIVE MOTHER: A PERFECT MADNESS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/my-abusive-mother-a-perfect-madness/
+THE PROCESS OF RUPTURE AND REPAIR NEED REPOSE AND RESTORATION at
+INCHING TOWARD FREEDOM at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/09/03/inching-toward-freedom/
+’SHAKE IT UP BABY!’ — MOVEMENT MATTERS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/09/03/shake-it-up-baby-movement-matters/
+MAKING FACES IN THE MIRROR (WITH SOUND EFFECTS) at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/08/19/making-faces-in-the-mirror-with-sound-effects/
+STEPPING TOWARD HEALING – WHAT OUR BODY KNOWS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/08/18/stepping-toward-healing-what-our-body-knows/
+GROWING UP IN THE MAD BLENDER OF MY BORDERLINE MOTHER’S MIND at
+MY LIVING PHILOSOPHY ABOUT WORDS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/07/03/my-living-philosophy-about-words/
+MY MOTHER’S ‘SPLITTING’ OF GOOD FROM EVIL AND HER ALTERED SENSE OF TIME at
+’SUPER INFANT-CHILD ABUSE’, WORSE THAN WAR CRIMES, IN THE REALM OF GENOCIDE-INFANTICIDE at
+CHILD ABUSE: THE POWER OF THE TRUTH AND THE DANGERS OF THE LIES at
+IT’S IN THE BODY: TAKING THE TRAUMA AND THE DRAMA OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS at
+UNSPEAKABLE MADNESS: INSIDE A CHILD ABUSING BORDERLINE MOTHER’S MIND at
*THE MEANING OF MENDING OUR LIFE STORY at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/power-of-story/the-meaning-of-mending-our-life-story/
+ANTI-DISSOCIATION: REMEMBERING THE FEELING OF FEELING ONE’S SELF IN ONE’S LIFE at
+MY HEART IS NOT BREAKING – IT’S BROKEN at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/04/07/my-heart-is-not-breaking-its-broken/
+CAN’T WRITE ABOUT SADNESS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/04/06/cant-write-about-sadness/
+FOOLED BY AN ABUSIVE BORDERLINE? – MY MOTHER’S EXPERT DISTORTION OF REALITY at
+EARLY ATTACHMENT ORIGINS OF EMPATHY at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/03/17/early-attachment-origins-of-empathy/
+HOW DOES THE SELF GET FORMED? HERE’S A WHOLE LOT OF IMPORTANT INFO at
+IN MEMORY OF MY MOTHER; LINKS TO INFO ON BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER at
+TRAUMA TELLS THE BODY WHAT TO DO at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/28/trauma-tells-the-body-what-to-do/
+OUR STRESS RESPONSE IS WHAT WE PASS DOWN TO OUR KIDS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/12/our-stress-response-is-what-we-pass-down-to-our-kids/
+MY MOTHER COULD NOT ‘SIGH’ FOR ME at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/07/my-mother-could-not-sigh-for-me/
+ABUSIVE PARENTS HAVE THE WEAKEST SELVES POSSIBLE at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/06/abusive-parents-have-the-weakest-selves-possible/
+INTERGENERATIONAL TRAUMA AND THE NATURE OF GOOD AND BAD at
+VAGUS SOCIAL NERVE – INFLUENCED BY CULTURE at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/02/02/vagus-social-nerve-influenced-by-culture/
+MY MOTHER’S VAGUS NERVE: THE MAKING OF HER PERFECT BORDERLINE STORM? at
+CAN EARLY INFANT-CHILD MALTREATMENT TURN OFF THE COMPASSION SWITCH? at
+A LONG, THOUGHTFUL LOOK AT VERBAL ABUSE AS MALIGNANT TEASING at
+IN THE PRESENCE OF LAUGHTER WE ARE SAFE, SECURE AND FREE at
+IN THE ABSENCE OF LAUGHTER at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/01/20/in-the-absence-of-laughter/
+EARLY TRAUMA CHANGES HOW WE THINK AND TALK at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2010/01/08/early-trauma-changes-how-we-think-and-talk/
+LEARNING STYLES AND LONELINESS at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/26/learning-styles-and-loneliness/
+CALM THE CRYING BABY — IMMUNE SYSTEM STIMULATES VAGUS NERVE TRAUMA ALTERED DEVELOPMENT at
+DECEMBER 21, 1925 MY SEVERELY ABUSIVE MOTHER WAS BORN at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/21/december-21-1925-my-severely-abusive-mother-was-born/
+GENDER AND THE BRAIN — DIFFERENCES AND EARLY TRAUMA at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/20/gender-and-the-brain-differences-and-early-trauma/
+KIDS NEED TLC — NOT TRAUMA! at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/19/kids-need-tlc-not-trauma/
+DEGREES-OF-WELL-BEING IS ABOUT SOCIAL HEALTH, NOT “MENTAL” OR “BEHAVIORAL” at
+PRIMARY A-B-Cs — ATTACHMENT-BRAIN-CAREGIVER at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/14/primary-a-b-cs-attachment-brain-caregiver/
+TO BE OR NOT TO BE A TRAUMA-CHANGED HUMAN — THE QUALITY OF MOTHERING HOLDS THE ABSOLUTE KEY at
+EARLY TRAUMA MEMORY CHANGES ‘THE BODY’ WE DO ALL OUR REMEMBERING WITH at
+’SYMP-TOM’ – ‘WITH-BODY’: WE ARE CHANGED PEOPLE, NOT ‘SICK’ ONES at
+THOUGHTS ON THE TRIGGER POINT OF SHAME at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/12/07/thoughts-on-the-trigger-point-of-shame/
+THREAT OF ATTACK – STAYING NUMB – PTSD AND DISSOCIATION at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/threat-of-attack-staying-numb-ptsd-and-dissociation/
+PTSD AND SEVERE ABUSE SURVIVORSHIP – PART THREE at (links to part one and two are in this post)
+I WILL NEVER BE ORDINARY. IT IS TIME FOR ME TO KNOW THIS TRUTH. at
+LOOKING BACK – I DID NOT UNDERSTAND MY MOTHER’S ABUSE OF ME. I DID NOT UNDERSTAND. at
+WHEN ABUSIVE PARENTS STEAL THEIR CHILD’S THUNDER at
https://stopthestorm.wordpress.com/2009/11/16/when-abusive-parents-steal-their-childs-thunder/
+EARLY ABUSE AFFECTS OUR REACTION TO ADULT TRAUMA EXPOSURE at
+SECURE AND INSECURE ATTACHMENT AND THE CHILDHOOD NARRATIVE at
+I FOUND ANOTHER ‘BROKEN’ DOLL PIECE MY MOTHER WROTE IN 1955 at (related links in this post)
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